Monday, October 3, 2011

Never Give Up

So this last weekend I went boating with my family. It was only the second time this season that I've been able to go. (This makes me sad.) But while wakeboarding, I decided that I didn't like my neck very much and threw myself neck first into the water. Okay, that's not exactly how it happened. I may or may not have made a horrible error in judgement going over the wake and caught the front lip of my board and went down hard.

This wasn't Saturday's fall (this was a fall from 2 summers ago), but it looked similar, I'm sure, to this:
I'm now very, very sore. But it got me thinking about wakeboarding. It took me FOREVER to learn how to do it. I'm embarrassed to admit that it took me an entire summer getting out there in the water week after week, trying to figure out how to take the thousand tons of pressure against my board every time the boat started forward and turn it into me on top of the water. People tried to explain it to me, to tell me how it worked for them, etc. etc. In the end, I had to feel it for myself. I finally did it. And maybe that's why I like it so much now (four summers later)--because of how much work it took to learn. Because I'm so dang proud of myself.

Of course I'm going to relate this to writing (I know, I normally don't and tell you to do the "relating" job yourself, but I actually have a story). I was talking to a friend the other day who is on the verge of calling it quits on this whole writing thing. It reminded me of when I felt the same way this time last year. I had recently left my first agent. I had written what I thought was my best book yet. And I had started querying again. I was in my 5th month of querying. Five months! I had honestly thought I would get an agent right away. I had a pretty good request rate, but only had one agent request anything past the partial. So I kept revising and sending more out. Then I came to a point where I was like, maybe I don't know what I'm doing. Maybe I don't know what's good and what's not. I had hit a low and was one rejection away from quitting. I didn't want to put myself through any more heartache. I needed a break, at the very least, I told myself. I was sending out two more queries and that was it.

Well, I'm so glad I did. My agent was one of those. (And Michelle, you might be asking why you weren't one of the first queries I sent out and I don't know. I thought you were awesome, I followed you on twitter, you represented a friend. Okay, maybe I was slightly intimidated by you. But I'm also glad you weren't one of the first because the book was way better by the time you got it.) So what's my point?? Never. Give. Up. If writing is something you love, hang in there. Keep writing. Keep trying. Will your face hit the water every now and again? Yes. Will you be sore for a couple days after? Yes. But will it make your eventual success that much sweeter? Yes. Never give up.

11 comments:

  1. Thanks for the encouragement! It helps those of us in query land to hear stories like this.

    And I'm jealous about the wake-boarding. I've only been a handful of times in my life, but it's so fun!

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  2. You know I need to read this. :)

    It really does seem to be one of the most common themes in the writing world. And yet, one so easy to brush aside, thinking it doesn't apply to you.

    On a different note, I'm very impressed that you can wakeboard. And you look cool in that pic. :)

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  3. Boy, did I need to hear this today. This moment. I went to my writers group meeting this morning and for some reason I left feeling blah. Like maybe this whole writing thing is silly and the dumbest thing I've ever tried to do. It. Is. Not. Thanks for reminding me.

    Sidenote/brag- I waterskiied for the first time this summer and it was amazing! So much fun. And bonus, my husband was impressed:)

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  4. Great post. I have had many times when I wanted to give up, but I always knew that I couldn't.

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  5. Great post, and so true. And definitely something I need to hear right now.

    Also, I LOVE wakeboarding! Sorry about your neck, ouch. Those wakeboarding crashes can suck. I know fron LOTS of experience. :/

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  6. Love. So glad you & Michelle "found" each other. What a great match!!!

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  7. Janet, good luck in query land. It's not the most fun place to be but definitely worth it. :) And wakeboarding is the best.

    Renee, you can do it! :) And I look cool in that pic?? The one where I'm about to face plant?? :) You're funny.

    Ruth, I'm glad this was a timely message. I feel like it needed to be accompanied by some sort of war music. :) And I'm impressed at your waterskiing abilities (you got up in your first session?? You rock!)

    Angie, it always comes back to that, doesn't it? We just can't seem to let it go. And that's what brings success.

    Sara, yeah, I read on your blog that you love to wakeboard. :) So awesome! Let's go sometime and not wipeout.

    Debra, me too!! Love that lady!

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  8. I wish I could wakeboard... That is awesome. An even if you're about to biff it in that picture, you look cool! ;)

    And thanks for this post. I have a problem doubting myself and thinking about giving up, but I'm determined not to. :)

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  9. I thought I was getting the hang of writing more. But then my children got REALLY naughty, like naughty-virus naughty. Like a big wave I hit while wake-boarding that flipped me off, dragged me under, and held me there.

    Love them, though.

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  10. I've never wake boarded or water skied, I general avoid all things water, but I totally agree with you in regards to writing. We just need to keep learning and trying.

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  11. Great post and good advice. Your story has always given me inspiration, so I don't tire of hearing it.

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