tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7285879888452949022.post6815004576497171573..comments2024-03-18T05:22:31.466-07:00Comments on Kasie West: Thou Shalt Not Covet Thy Neighbor’s….Kasie Westhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14169629001145903361noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7285879888452949022.post-67898579486786086272011-03-07T08:24:22.867-08:002011-03-07T08:24:22.867-08:00Wow... this is big. I'm pretty I'm not str...Wow... this is big. I'm pretty I'm not strong enough to do that. Show me how? :)J.R. Johanssonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02671109654769467131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7285879888452949022.post-11413658255763690822011-03-06T22:26:05.753-08:002011-03-06T22:26:05.753-08:00Yes, this is so me. Its like I'm not satisfied...Yes, this is so me. Its like I'm not satisfied until I've figured out: yes, I'm the most special person ever and said agent is probably snuggling with my mss and singing it happy songs, or (more likely) a request means nothing and why, oh why am I not as cool as so-and-so who not only got a request but wrote the book and published it while she was still in infancy/flying airplanes/cleaning her house (I know. A writer with a clean house? Seriously.). <br /><br />So comparisons aren't productive. Learn and grow, learn and grow...Janinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03750915015483174169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7285879888452949022.post-49143733237765266852011-03-06T10:32:28.159-08:002011-03-06T10:32:28.159-08:00I just know how luck and timing and so many other ...I just know how luck and timing and so many other factors come into play in this business, so I try to mind my own.<br /><br />However, that doesn't mean I don't think "unngh, how come .... ungh ... why...ung... how can i...ungh.... she/he ...ungh..." laughing - but I only allow myself to do that for a little bit and then it's back to work.<br /><br />Because really, maybe someone is looking at me and saying "how'd she have three books published in two years? how come she found a publisher who loves her? how come she has a walk-about hat from australia that actually fits her little pea-head when other hats never do!" :-DKathryn Magendiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12863595228298349863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7285879888452949022.post-50304762554508021482011-03-06T06:42:25.404-08:002011-03-06T06:42:25.404-08:00Whew! For a moment I thought you were going to sen...Whew! For a moment I thought you were going to send me to a loony house or something!<br />And I LOVE that way of thinking! You're so wise, my sistah. :D *runs off to stalk around*Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00482654021641010175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7285879888452949022.post-58155772825640888282011-03-05T21:01:00.539-08:002011-03-05T21:01:00.539-08:00Amber, oh yes, that is the next stage, isn't i...Amber, oh yes, that is the next stage, isn't it? :) <br /><br />Michelle, I completely agree. I've never felt that things happen at the right time more than I do now. I'm glad you understand the feeling, though. :) <br /><br />Shelley, So true. It is good to remember that we are only seeing portions of someone's life. That is a really helpful reminder. Thanks. :)<br /><br />Monica, I think you're right, a little competitive spirit can be very motivating. I think it just depends on how you feel after the stalkin--I mean, reading about others. If you feel excited to try to do better, then yes, keep doing it. If, it makes you feel worse about yourself and stops you from being productive, then it must not be healthy. But you are obviously a very sweet girl so it doesn't surprise me that reading about others' stories only encourages you. :) <br /><br />Jessie, you evil, evil girl. Stay away from my BFF. :)Kasie Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14169629001145903361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7285879888452949022.post-51166624788973328232011-03-05T20:17:01.676-08:002011-03-05T20:17:01.676-08:00It will be finished in twenty years (at least that...It will be finished in twenty years (at least that's what I told Candice in our top-secret email exchange which you are not supposed to know about because she is your BFF and I'm your AE) and then you can read it.Jessie Oliveroshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06232456334069794107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7285879888452949022.post-48819893420271538332011-03-05T18:14:45.824-08:002011-03-05T18:14:45.824-08:00I kinda feel ashamed here, you know?
I mean, I...I kinda feel ashamed here, you know? <br />I mean, I'm always comparing myself to others and I seem to do nothing about it, LOL.<br />Maybe it's because I've had fun doing it? (Oh please, don't hit me!) I mean, take the querying thing--I had lots of fun reading other comments in query tracker... oh well, maybe I'm so crazy, as Kimberly says, LOL!<br /><br />And it's funny, because I blogged about something similar a while ago, about feeling jealous of other writers, and in the end, I got to the conclusion that a little bit of jealousy--without wishing the others something bad-- is good bc it makes you work harder to get your dreams. :PAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00482654021641010175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7285879888452949022.post-67979305338058495142011-03-05T07:19:30.116-08:002011-03-05T07:19:30.116-08:00I think comparing yourself to others is never a wi...I think comparing yourself to others is never a win situation. I mean, the other commentors are right, it IS human nature. However, you either end up feeling terribly lacking or snobbishly cocky. No.Win.<br /><br />For me, most of the time I just try to remember how incredibly lucky I am (in lots of ways, not just as a writer.) The truth is, we never hear the WHOLE story of someone's life on a blog (nor do we really want to, for that matter) so who really knows what struggles they might be facing in other areas of their life? <br /><br />Few people lead truly charmed lives.<br /><br />Very thought provoking post.<br /><br />Shelleystoryqueenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07039684494823420722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7285879888452949022.post-20425582208314328052011-03-05T07:02:11.774-08:002011-03-05T07:02:11.774-08:00Aww, Kasie! I understand the comparison game, and ...Aww, Kasie! I understand the comparison game, and I hate it, hate it, hate it. You are so right that we can't compare, and coveting anything of someone else's is never, ever good. Things will happen for you when they are supposed to happen. I keep telling myself this, too. :)Michelle D. Argylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09696465137285587646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7285879888452949022.post-92083223614283207532011-03-04T20:55:47.269-08:002011-03-04T20:55:47.269-08:00The same way I keep from munching on chips. I don&...The same way I keep from munching on chips. I don't buy them. <br />It's tempting to check up on other authors. See what their goodreads numbers are, their rank on Amazon. <br />But I know I'd only see the ones doing better than me an never the ones doing worse. <br />So I don't look. I'm hoping I can keep the same attitude when reviews come out. :)amberargylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05058327741777322247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7285879888452949022.post-82675700586352678772011-03-04T20:02:24.013-08:002011-03-04T20:02:24.013-08:00You guys are all really good at making me feel bet...You guys are all really good at making me feel better about my comparing-myself-to-others problem. Thanks for your sympathy/advice/ways that work for you. :)<br /><br />Linda, no need to be ashamed. It's addictive. :) This post wasn't supposed to make you feel bad about yourself. <br /><br />Candi, so true. That is exactly what we do and it is entirely unfair to ourselves.<br /><br />Jessie, you are my arch enemy so you know I stalk and compare myself to you constantly. I'm sure you're just hiding out waiting to pounce with your brilliant book and awesomeness. You're trying to throw me off your scent. As your arch enemy that should somehow gain me the privilege of reading this book of yours, shouldn't it?Kasie Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14169629001145903361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7285879888452949022.post-65811117950493972962011-03-04T19:48:19.817-08:002011-03-04T19:48:19.817-08:00I know that my whole unfinished-book status is ver...I know that my whole unfinished-book status is very enviable, but you really need to stop comparing yourself to me. And the stalking? It's just gone too far.Jessie Oliveroshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06232456334069794107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7285879888452949022.post-32919078946856107212011-03-04T14:27:24.719-08:002011-03-04T14:27:24.719-08:00My biggest problem is that I compare all my worst ...My biggest problem is that I compare all my worst traits with 20 other people's best traits, never stopping to consider we all have strenghts and weaknesses. Me vs. 20. I lose every time. Not that we should compare at all, but it is human nature.Candicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13658962630981643176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7285879888452949022.post-69336435766438459342011-03-04T14:24:23.722-08:002011-03-04T14:24:23.722-08:00I try to remind myself of exactly what you said: &...I try to remind myself of exactly what you said: "I will have my own story."<br /><br />Granted, it's not always easy. But I try not to focus only on those who who are reaching their dreams faster than I am. I also take a long hard look at those who have been struggling even longer/harder than I have.<br /><br />Because it's all relative, yannoh?Linda G.https://www.blogger.com/profile/04576828490765434497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7285879888452949022.post-19902203796841853382011-03-04T14:16:24.204-08:002011-03-04T14:16:24.204-08:00But stalking is so much fun. It's human nature...But stalking is so much fun. It's human nature to be curious about what's on the other side of the fence. The trick is to appreciate what's on your side. I guess. Easier said than done.Ruth Jossehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08664678990038670303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7285879888452949022.post-87494774538172940992011-03-04T13:24:58.407-08:002011-03-04T13:24:58.407-08:00Since you'd know I was lying if I denied it, I...Since you'd know I was lying if I denied it, I have to say I don't keep myself from obsessive comparison. Oh, I tell myself not to. I tell myself why it's only self-defeating. I tell myself my path is not theirs. I talk a good talk. Then, I ignore myself and do it again.<br /><br />I'm doing it today. I'm hanging my head in shame.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12870299624757008514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7285879888452949022.post-18100834195079780552011-03-04T13:22:30.041-08:002011-03-04T13:22:30.041-08:00I try to remind myself that everyone has different...I try to remind myself that everyone has different processes and strengths, and everyone is going to have different stories too. This doesn't necessarily mean that one is better than the other.Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01901886302578503906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7285879888452949022.post-50792430254027553442011-03-04T12:26:27.921-08:002011-03-04T12:26:27.921-08:00I'm the same way. Could I just steal this post...I'm the same way. Could I just steal this post for my own person use? Just kidding. <br />I have a hard time with comparing myself with others as well. For that very reason, when may agent goes on submission with my first book, I'll probably expect rejection, since I'm not one of those people that get 25 editors fighting over one book. I've learned to sit down and relax though. Everyone has their own journey. Some have to work harder than others, which at times isn't fair. But, I know if I keep plugging along, keep writing, keep my cool when others get a book deal in a day, and keep loving what I do, it will eventually happen to me. I love aspiring stories. It makes me not give up. <br />And FYI, when your book sells, I'll be one of the first in line to buy it! :)Chantele Sedgwickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07920913211842919013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7285879888452949022.post-20617725421174382042011-03-04T12:24:04.089-08:002011-03-04T12:24:04.089-08:00I try NOT to read about an authors journey per say...I try NOT to read about an authors journey per say. I don't want to know how they found their agent, or how quickly they manage to get published, or how the journey is taking forever...<br /><br />To me the writers themselves are what matter, the substance of who they are as a person. If I reflect on anything else, I might go screaming mad. My journey isn't like any other, it's mine. (Hugs)IndigoSage Ravenwoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17143502548162174269noreply@blogger.com