Have you ever noticed there are some girls on the Bachelor who every time they're on a date all they can talk about is how they are there for the right reasons and they really want to be there and they are open to finding love, and blah blah blah? So the Bachelor never gets to know them at all (nor does the viewer). And then there are some girls who go on dates and are just themselves. They laugh and talk and have fun.
Have you ever noticed the same thing can happen in writing? Let's call it the 'I'm here for the right reasons' problem. Where instead of a girl just being herself and hanging out with the boy and the plot happening, she feels the need to constantly let the reader know how much she wants to be with him. How if she could only be with him her life would be complete, etc. etc. Then every time they're together they only talk about why they can or can't be together. Now I'm not saying talking about that on occasion is bad. But it can't replace a plot or a personality. And most of the time, if there's a fun or intense or intriguing plot the romantic tension develops on its own without even needing to draw attention to the fact that they want each other. The reader wants them to be together. We don't constantly need our main character to tell us she is starring in the book for the right reasons--to get the guy (this is, of course, assuming romance is a part of the books plot). We know. Believe me, we know. And if that's all she's ever telling the reader, we don't get to know her (or him) at all. And I want to know them. Let me know them!
Okay, I feel better now. :) (Can you tell I'm really annoyed with some girls on the Bachelor?)
The rest of this week I'll be in Utah for LTUE (Life, the Universe, and Everything). Is anyone else going? I want to meet my virtual friends. Let me know if you'll be there. And if you live in Utah, I highly recommend it. It's super cheap (like 30 bucks a day or something) and there are tons of amazing authors and experts there. Go here to find out more.